Monday, June 27, 2011

How Much Longer Can We Keep The Secret?

I don’t think that S’s pregnancy can possibly be kept a secret for much longer, despite her anxiety to keep it under wraps a few more weeks.  After all, as they say, loose lips sink ships and far too many people around us have loose lips.  At this point probably about 25 people in real life know about the pregnancy, but certainly not everyone.  And we have had a few slips- two slips on Facebook that were hastily deleted, two slips of people making comments about it in front of people who weren’t supposed to know (though those people didn’t catch on), and then this weekend at S’s work a girl pulled her aside to talk to her because she had heard from folks at her other job (where S also used to work) that we were trying to get pregnant (she had some useless advise for S), and also at work S forgot that she was wearing maternity pants and bent over in front of a girl who had a baby recently and she probably saw the belly band part of the pants.  And then stuff keeps happening like at two different parties we have played games that S could not participate in and had to be sneaky about getting other people to participate instead (one involved chugging beer and the other involved popping balloons between two people’s stomachs).  To top it all off, S is sick so constantly it really has just been pure luck that she has been alone at work each time the sickness strikes; and she is for sure sporting the tinniest baby bump that is only going to get bigger.  So I’m thinking as S is going on her 11th week this week that she probably only has about two more weeks tops before the news needs to be told.  

And speaking of telling people, I told my boss today.  Now my boss is a 65 year old man who used to be a preacher.  He is a great boss, but me being gay is something that I think he probably has a hard time with, though you’d never be able to tell.  In fact, I have known him the whole 7 years that I’ve worked here and he been my manager for about 5 years now.  In all of that time, I have mentioned S many times, have pictures of her on my desk and even introduced him to her AS MY PARTNER at a coworkers wedding, and it still wasn’t until about a year ago that he finally figured it out and asked one of my coworkers if I was in a relationship with S.  Duh!  So I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that when I told him he had zero reaction.  No congratulations, no questions about due date or boy vs. girl, nothing.  Just an ok.  And when I went on to explain that I wanted to go to S’s doctors appointments whenever our schedule would allow, he was just like, ok, we can work on making that happen.  So it wasn’t a big deal, and I’m sure he had no idea how to react and so neutral was best.  Still, somehow, I expected more.


  1. It's hard when you're so excited to have oyher people NOT be as excited as you are. Not to worry, I am super excited for you!!!

  2. I'm worried about telling my boss for that reason. Ahhh well let no one rain on your baby parade!

  3. Isn't it sad that we live in a world where an "okay" is a good response because it could be so much worse? You deserve more excitement!!! I'm excited for you too!