Saturday, July 20, 2013

Here we are again in pain limbo

We have had an eventful few days.  On Thurs, Liz called me at work around 5pm. I was on a conference call and she called multiple times.  I was in the middle of doing a million things as I am currently working 2 account sets due to someone quitting. (which is kinda great for my paycheck, but also pretty crazy to do).

When I finally get a hold of her, she says she has been in intense pain all afternoon and I need to come home.  I leave ASAP, which feels like forever when you are trying to wrap things up and drive an hour to your wife who needs you because she is in crazy pain who is also right now in charge of our 16th month old. 

I get home and we go to the Urgent Care up the street.  The thing that makes that at all possible and doable is one of our good friends come to take care of Jude so just Liz and I can go.  They run tests and a very calm, but not too helpful Dr. says, "honestly we have no idea and the test results are weird."  They run more tests and then say they will call us around 10pm when the tests get back and let us know if we need to go to the ER or not.  At the same exact moment that the pharmacist gets to me (aftering waiting in line for quite a while) as I pick up the prescriptions the Dr. has prescribed for her at Urgent care, the Dr. calls and says, "go to the ER".  So, I grab the prescriptions and call the friend who saved us as she was able to come to house and spend the night with Jude (we were in the ER from 10:30pm-4am, so imagine if we had to do that with a sleepy, and confused 16 month old in tow) and we head to the ER.  More tests, more, "I am not sure what it is" going on until they admit her to a room. 

Hospitals are weird because the Dr. sees you once a day and then there is no way to get a hold of them.  This particular Dr. saw Liz yesterday around 6am (I was home with Jude sleeping and not able to be at the hospital) and did not chart nething, so the most neone could tell me yesterday was the information my highly drugged wife had about the whole thing.  It sounds  like what they are doing is making her comfortable thru the weekend and then trying to get her into the practice of a specialist to figure out what to do next.  They keep saying that the pain could just go away and so they want to see if it does.  No one has much information other than that. It could be a cyst or a fibroid or cancer or fluid or so on and so forth.

However, the only data I have on what exactly they are doing is from my wife who as I stated is highly drugged and was when the Dr. came by, so honestly, I have no frickin' idea what is going on.  Another super hero friend is actually staying the night on a palate he made for himself at the hospital with her to get some answers as I have to be here with Jude and can't be there myself.  He works at the hospital and just got off a 12 hour shift to sleep on the floor of the room Liz is in to then go back and work another 12 hour shift.  I tell you, our friends are super heroes and we would not survive without them.

So here we are again.  The pain waiting game with no timeline or end in sight.  I am waiting to figure out what the heck is going on with my wife that makes her in so much pain that they are just IVing her drugs, so that we can figure out what the next step is so that we can figure out what we do with our little family for the time being and moving forward and when Liz is going to not be in pain.  As my mom said, she has had enough pain this year for her lifetime quota.

I need to work to pay bills and not just the regular bills, but the medical bills that are just piling up from all of this, but life is in such a limbo that it it hard to do and figure out where Jude is going to go and what kind of help we will need and what is going to happen to my poor wife and so on and so forth.  I went into work yesterday just to be sent home in 30 mins because I was a mess and my boss is a super nice guy.  But, in sales, time missed is money missed, so I can't take too much time off considering I just took a ton of time off when we went thru this the first time.   

I just hope the Dr. calls me when she is there this morning because being in pain limbo sucks for all of us. 

1 comment:

  1. So sorry to hear this! Hope she's okay and you get answers soon. You two deserve a break!