Sunday, July 21, 2013

Answering the Big Question

So I'm doing much better, out of the hospital and back at home.  This morning talking with my doctor about what comes next a big question came up that I'm not 100% sure how I want to answer.  The doctor explained with fibroids that they always come back and that even though I'm feeling better I do need surgery to remove mine based on how big it is and that this is something I will be dealing with again and again...unless...I get a hysterectomy. 

So that is the big question, should I just go ahead and do that and be done.  Or do I want to just remove the fibroid for now and deal with it coming back in however long.  I guess the thing is that I'm young enough to still possibly have more children.  And at this point, do I want more children?  How important to me is it that if we do decide to have more children that I have some choice in being able to carry the child?  At this point I'm just trying to wrap my mind around the whole idea, I didn't think that was even an option until just a few hours ago.  I don't think that we for sure want more children at this point, it would be a ways off if we did, and I don't think being actually pregnant is something that I'm really desperately wanting to do.  This is the one time where I feel lucky to be in a lesbian relationship.  At least if I do decide to get the hysterectomy then all that really means is that I won't be able to carry any future children we might want to have, not that we can't have them at all.  It's a big decision.  Thinking, thinking, thinking...


  1. Oh my. That is a tricky one. I hope that you're able to come to a decision that you're satisfied with. And yes, in some ways being a lesbian can be such a blessing when it comes to growing your family!

  2. I'm so glad you're feeling better! But, what a choice to have to've probably already been looking up stuff on the Internet about your options, but if you do decide to go with the hysterectomy, know that you don't have to get a full one. They can just remove the uterus and not your ovaries and other parts so you won't have the effect of going through menopause all at once, which happens with a full hysterectomy. And, if this is the first time you've had the fibroids, it may be years before they come back, which might buy you some more time before you have to deal with it. I love you and hope you are able to make a decision soon! Call me sometime if you want to; I'm pretty available these days.

  3. Very tough choice indeed. Not to sway one way or the other, but I would go with what is going to make you healthy and happy for the kid you have now rather than being in continual pain all in the name of a kid you MIGHT want to have later. And you make an excellent point, lesbian relationship = 2 uteruses ;)

    Glad you are feeling better for now and thanks to S for updating us!